It may not be long before "Ladies and Gentlemen" ceases to start a speech, as the result of blurring the distinction between man and gentleman, and woman and lady.
We may not hear at banquets, "Gentlemen, charge your glasses," or understand the Victorian-era ballad: "My mother was a lady like yours, you will allow."
Putting aside the grotesquerie of gender confusion, this is simply the consequence of losing the brilliant sense of chivalry, courtesy, and honor. Men and women are biological facts; gentlemen and ladies are crafted by long exposure to natural virtue. In times past this was foolishly ascribed to social privilege. In 1381 the slogan of the Peasants' Revolt was: "When Adam delved and Eve span, who was then the gentleman?" Sherlock Holmes detected that Baron Gruner was an imposter because in respectable society "you remove the band from a cigar before lighting it." This distorted understanding of courtliness occasionally led to a reaction replacing "Ladies and Gentlemen" with the generic "Comrades," which may be revived as a protocol by the likes of Antifa and the mayor of New York City.
Chivalry, courtesy and honor are as accessible as virtue itself, and are apart from wealth, social status, race and nationality. Their absence can degrade popes and paupers alike if they insult, humiliate and bully others. Charles II was a gentleman, not because he was a king but because he "put those around him at ease." As wit is in the arsenal of the courtly man, Charles quipped that Presbyterianism was no religion for a gentleman and Anglicanism was no religion for a Christian. He became a Catholic on his deathbed, apologizing to his courtiers for taking so long to die. For Saint John Henry Newman, it is "almost a definition of a gentleman to say that he is one who never inflicts pain." With intuitive elegance, a gentleman "makes light of favours while he does them, and seems to be receiving when he is conferring."
I recently came across some accounts in Catholic journals that had lost the meaning of "gentleman" in describing what Sherlock Holmes would have called a "bounder." One mentioned a "gentleman" intent on killing, and described a "gentleman" on a New York City sidewalk poking an elderly woman in the head. Last week, when a church in Florida was set afire, with worshipers barely escaping, the Diocese of Orlando offered piteous prayers for "the gentleman who caused this damage." Thugs and arsonists are not gentlemen.
We can say without irreverence that the Divine Saviour is the Perfect Gentleman. He inflicted no pain, although he stimulated pain in the consciences of the guilty, and by a singular redeeming act, he took the pain of the whole world on himself. In this he also exemplified that other quality of Newman's gentleman, by being "merciful to the absurd."
Father George W. Rutler. "Old Glory." From the Pastor (July 15, 2020).
Reprinted with permission of Father George W. Rutler.
Father George W. Rutler is the pastor of St. Michael's church in New York City. He has written many books, including: The Wit and Wisdom of Father George Rutler, The Stories of Hymns, Hints of Heaven: The Parables of Christ and What They Mean for You, Principalities and Powers: Spiritual Combat 1942-1943, Cloud of Witnesses — Dead People I Knew When They Were Alive, Coincidentally: Unserious Reflections on Trivial Connections, A Crisis of Saints: Essays on People and Principles, Brightest and Best, and Adam Danced: The Cross and the Seven Deadly Sins.Copyright © 2020 Father George W. Rutler
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