The Virtue of Care
- DONALD DEMARCO
The heart of virtue is love. Love without virtue remains unexpressed.
Caring
Equals Loving
The degree of intimacy with love is more evident in some virtues than in others. In the case of courtesy or justice, for example, the degree of intimacy with love may not be readily apparent. But with care, more than with any other virtue, its identification with love is unmistakable. When people care for one another, ministering to each others needs, as a mother cares for her new baby, a doctor cares for a sick patient, or a teacher cares for a struggling student, the connection between love and virtue is evident. The popular expression tender loving care reveals the deep intimacy between the virtue of care and its heart of love. Care, then, is the virtue that is most synonymous with love.
A human being is, most fundamentally, one who is called into existence by love and called into existence to love. Pope John Paul II, therefore, says that love is the fullest realization of the possibilities inherent in man. Because the virtue of care is so deeply associated with love, it comes the closest of all virtues to coinciding with it. And because love personifies the human being, care is the name that comes closest to revealing his identity.
The inability to care, more than anything else, shows a human being to be inhuman. To care is to express humanness, to reveal love. Not to care is to place a barrier between oneself and ones own humanity. It is to remain unloving.
The Truest Way to be Human
Roman mythology teaches that the truest name
for the human person is Care, and offers an imaginative and instructive fable
to illustrate how this name came to be chosen:
One day, Care was amusing
herself by molding earth into various shapes. She fashioned one shape that especially
amused her. Wanting this new form to enjoy life, she beseeched Jupiter to grant
it a soul. Jupiter obliged Care by breathing life into the earthly form. Care
then requested that this new creature be named after her. When Jupiter objected,
they asked Saturn, the god of time, to serve as arbiter. Saturn decreed that when
the new creature died, its body had to return to Earth, which was its origin;
its soul had to return to its father, Jupiter, who had given it life. But all
the time it was alive it was to be entrusted to Care.
Harvard scholar
and poet Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, who had a great affection for the myths of
antiquity, also wrote about the primal place of time and care in the constitution
of man. He conceived an image that exquisitely parallels the Roman myth:
The every-day cares and duties, which men call drudgery, are the weights and counterpoises of the clock of time, giving its pendulum a true vibration, and its hands a regular motion; and when they cease to hang upon the wheels, the pendulum no longer swings, the hands no longer move, and the clock stands still.
The absence of care is the death of personality. Care may seem to be a weight, but in fact it is the counterweight that gives life its balance, its vibrancy, its authenticity.
Shouldering the Burden
Yet
the central problem with care is precisely that many view it as drudgery. People
long for the so-called care-free life, one that exempts them from the burden
of having to care for other people, especially the very young and the very old.
Yet this care-free ideal is infected with ominous implications for abortion
and euthanasia. No doubt, caring can be inconvenient on occasion and can place
considerable demands on our time. Indeed, the many cares of life can be exhausting.
Shakespeare said that we needed sleep to knot up the raveled sleeve of care. And
Milton, in LAllegro, derided Care as a wrinkled old hag.
Ironically,
the virtue that makes us authentically human caring often appears
so burdensome that a person prefers to be other than who he is. Sluggishness,
indifference to others, is therefore commonplace. Thus, Mother Teresa of Calcutta
could say, The greatest disease in the West is not tuberculosis or leprosy; it
is being unwanted, unloved, and uncared for.
Despite the horrifying
ordeal she experienced at a Nazi concentration camp during World War II, CUF advisor
Wanda Poltawska has never lost her caring concern for others. As a psychiatrist,
she draws from her experience to provide specialized care to others who have suffered
from the horrors of war and genocide.
When John Paul II was shot in a
failed assassination attempt, the first thing he did upon his release from the
hospital was to visit his assailant in prison and pardon him. Even those who contest
his words do not challenge his integrity and his abiding care for others
including those who have trespassed against him.
Care does not allow
suffering, either in the self or in the other, to prevent love from being expressed.
It is the virtue that allows love to overcome its first and most fundamental obstacle,
namely, inconvenience. It is never too inconvenient to love as long as one has
care. Hes not heavy, said the lad who seemed to be struggling under the burden
of the young tike he was carrying, Hes my brother.
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Acknowledgement
DeMarco,
Donald. "The Virtue of Care." Lay Witness.
Reprinted
with permission of Lay Witness.
Lay Witness is the flagship publication of Catholics United for the Faith. Featuring articles written by leaders in the Catholic Church, each issue of Lay Witness keeps you informed on current events in the Church, the Holy Father's intentions for the month, and provides formation through biblical and catechetical articles with real-life applications for everyday Catholics.
The Author
Dr. Donald DeMarco is Professor Emeritus, St. Jerome's University and Adjunct Professor at Holy Apostles College. He a former corresponding member of the Pontifical Academy of Life and author of forty-two books, including How to Remain Sane in a World That is Going Mad, Poetry That Enters the Mind and Warms the Heart, and How to Flourish in a Fallen World. He and his wife, Mary, have 5 children and 13 grandchildren.
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