Mom’s Rules for Getting the Girl 


A quality woman will bring out the best in a man. She will hold him to high standards. She will value herself, and she will value you. Look for this type of woman and don't settle. 

At a bridal shower today I was chatting with a friend who told me this true story about someone she knows:

A woman was on a first date with a man. As they drove in the car to their destination of a nice restaurant,  the conversation was lively and they found they had much in common. They were already enjoying one another's company very much. Once the car was parked the man got out and began to walk toward the door of the restaurant. He took several steps before he noticed that his date was not next to him. Where was she? He looked around, confused,  and then retraced his steps to find her sitting exactly as he had left her- in the car. She was smiling and patiently waiting….for him to come around her side of the car and open the door. "She knew what kind of man I was," he later told my friend, "and that I had just momentarily forgotten that. From then on, I did not forget again."

A quality woman will bring out the best in a man. She will hold him to high standards. She will value herself, and she will value you. Look for this type of woman and don't settle. Look for a girl who will help you be your best. How can you get the girl?

Rule number one is Remember your manners

Here are some niceties that every lady, whether she is 16 or 66, will appreciate:

Keep in mind

If a woman shuns these manners perhaps she is not the woman for you.

Rule number two: Don't settle

Every woman deserves to be treated with respect, but not every woman will make a good wife. Look for qualities in a woman that will increase the chances for a happy married life. When you go out, even on the most casual of dates, keep in mind the end goal of finding a good spouse. Don't date someone who you would not at least consider as a spouse.

Look for a woman who isn't high maintenance

If you date spoiled, demanding girls, chances are you will marry one. If you marry a spoiled, demanding girl, you will inherit her father's problems.  Spoiled, demanding girls can be very cute, but they increase headaches and can lead to years of heartache and misery. Choose a girl who will 'go with the flow' and has an appreciation for things in life. Choose a girl with a positive mental attitude who can be cheerful even in less than ideal situations. Then work hard to be the man she deserves.

Look for a woman who respects you and will appreciate your provision and protection.

A girl who shuns courtesy as in refusing to allow you to open the door or take her coat, will compete with you in other ways later on. Be careful.

Look for a woman who has high morals. 

And likewise be a man who embodies high morals. Seek one who embraces her faith, trusts in God and is kind to her fellow man. Look for a girl who respects herself and dresses and speaks modestly. A modest woman can be in the latest style and be well spoken, but she is never gaudy in dress or crass in speech.

Be the kind of man that the kind of woman described above deserves. Manners are classy and courtesy is never out of style. Keep the bar high and that will improve your chances of not just getting the girl, but of getting the right girl. And believe me, there's a difference.




Theresa A. Thomas. "Mom's Rules for Getting the Girl" The Catholic Lane (June 27, 2012).

This article is reprinted with permission from the author.


Theresa Thomas is mother of nine children. She is a regular family columnist for Today's Catholic News. She is also a regular contributor to the Integrated Catholic Life E-Magazine, and freelance writer, with work appearing in publications such as National Catholic Register, Catholic Exchange, Family Foundations, Michiana Family Magazine, Catholic Lane, home school newsletters and other national and local publications. Theresa was a story contributor to Amazing Grace for Mothers, Amazing Grace for Fathers, Amazing Grace for Families (Ascension Press), and and co-author of Stories for the Homeschool Heart. She is currently working on another book, Big Hearted Families, for Scepter Publishers. You can visit her blog here.

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