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From Woman to FeminismJOSEPH M. DE TORREWhile Women's Liberation has grown out of a legitimate and ethically justifiable desire for equality with men regarding civil rights, occupations, and political rights, along with these reasonable claims, have come others leading to sexual irresponsibility.
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whole code and etiquette of reverence towards woman grew up in the various fields
of the arts, literature, family organization, external and public manners, with
definite forms of address and courtesy. The king epitomized this attitude in his
public deference and respect for the queen. It is in those centuries of christian
chivalry that the custom was introduced of addressing the Blessed Virgin as Our
Lady, just as a knight would address his lady. Two of the greatest works of literature
of christian culture present their hero as inspired and led by the lady of their
dreams: Beatrice for Dante, and Dulcinea for Don Quixote. In those centuries,
to the extent that they were truly christian, there was no question of woman “achieving”
equality with man. Woman was simply in a higher category than man: as mother,
spouse or sister, she was superior to man, and man showed this by bowing to her
or kissing her feet. She left to man the prosaic and menial task of running the
economy or the state, and engaging in the various professions and trades. Not
that she would not have the capacity for these tasks, but her proper and specific
feminine qualities had to be reserved for the far more important work of educating
the children at home and actually running the home. She was the irreplaceable
educator of citizens in the irreplaceable school of the home. But Marx had
a new reading of this reality. According to him, woman had been “enslaved” in
the capitalist society. This thesis was shared by other socialists as well. They
pointed out that the home, the family had tied down the woman and deprived her
of her liberty. The socialist revolution would “emancipate” her through “free
love”: she would be free to have children or not by the use of contraceptives
or abortion, and free to educate them or not, and free to have sex with any one
of her own choice. Also included in the agenda for the “emancipation” of women,
now called Woman's Liberation or simply Woman's Lib, was the absolute equality
with men regarding civil rights and occupations, as well as political rights.
These claims were quite legitimate and ethically justified taken into account
the fundamental equality of the sexes, but we have just noted why the issue had
not been raised in the christian centuries. And besides, together with these reasonable
claims were the other ones about the sexual irresponsibility also just noted.
Regarding political rights, it was true that women were very much discriminated
against, because when the power of parliament became widely accepted over the
kings who were the rulers, the power to vote in elections became very strictly
regimented. What were the qualifications for the political right to vote? First
it was to own property, then to be a male, then of legal age, and then literate.
During the industrial revolution the franchise of the power to vote was extended
gradually, first to landless capitalists and then to non-owners and illiterates.
But woman remained unqualified until the end of the First World War with the triumph
of the Suffragette movement (from suffrage” = vote) which had grown throughout
that war. At the same time the fields of education, professions and public service
were also gradually more open to them. Was this a positive achievement? Undoubtedly
yes. But, like in almost all human achievements, there are shadows as well as
lights, and some observations are here pertinent regarding the impact of these
developments on the family and its position in society. Marx accused the capitalist
system of having enslaved woman by tying her to the home and the family. He viewed
modern liberalism and its capitalist system as carrying on this enslavement of
woman from the previous dialectical stage of medieval feudalism. But it is precisely
on this alleged continuity that his judgment did not agree with the facts, since
as noted earlier, in the medieval christian culture and civilization woman held
a superior status in relation to man. The male member of society bowed with reverence
before the higher dignity of womanhood, just as the king bowed to the queen, precisely
as mother of the family. The medieval society was truly a matriarchal society,
aside from being royal and aristocratic. Then in the 17th century, as a revolt
against royal absolutism, there came the liberal revolutions beginning with the
English Puritan revolution of 1640 claiming the power for the people and initiating
a trend towards republicanism and individualism. This movement, which culminated
in the 19th century liberalism and socialism, was undoubtedly beneficial for human
liberty, equality and fraternity. However, due to its proclivity towards either
individualism or collectivism, as well as its tendency to hedonistic materialism.
it was at the same time detrimental to the family and its values, with the consequent
downgrading for woman, since woman is superior to man precisely as mother, as
heart of the family, as lady and queen of the family. Either the individual or
the collectivity were to eclipse the primacy of the family. By “equalizing”
woman to man as just individuals, woman was in effect downgraded and placed in
a position of inferiority in relation to man. This is precisely what precipitated
the feminist movement towards equality with men, with the proliferation of marital
infidelity and divorce as expressions of individualism and hedonism. It was not
for the reason given by Marx, who, therefore, was also wrong in proposing free
love as the way of emancipation or liberation for them. Whenever the matriarchal
lifestyle has been preserved with the primacy of the family based on an unbroken
marriage, women have always been treated with respect and reverence, bowing to
them, taking off one's hat, offering them one's seat, kissing their hand and so
forth, even using particularly refined and polite language in front of them. All
of these have been falling out of use in modern individualistic society (see chapter
21). In the pre-industrialized, pre-individualistic society, more communitarian
and family centered, women were regarded as potential mothers, sources of human
life, and since human life was considered as having its origin in God (this is
clearly stated in the first pages of the Bible, and always assumed thereafter:
hence the prohibition not to kill), women were highly revered as closer to God.
This religious reverence for woman was logically extended to human sexuality and
marriage: hence the prohibition not to make sex impure by degrading or adulterating
it. Motherhood was thus the first dignity of womanhood, to which Christianity
added the motherhood (and fatherhood) of the spirit in apostolic celibacy. And
in both cases, whether married or not, woman is the irreplaceable provider of
mercy and tenderness and generosity for human society, as Pope John Paul II has
shown so lucidly, especially in his outstanding Apostolic Letter Mulieris Dignitatem
of 1988. All of this was largely and increasingly downplayed in the course
of the industrial revolution and the rise of modem individualism. And then came
socialism, with its obsession with equality of the sexes that would in effect
downgrade the woman to the level of man, instead of preserving her superiority.
Of course, these are only the shadows of the movement. But one should not overlook
the lights, namely the attainment of equality of civil, economic and political
rights for both sexes, whose absence had indeed been a longstanding injustice
in preindustrial society. Nevertheless, it must be acknowledged, for a fair and
objective assessment of the feminist movement or movements, that they have been
affected by both its lights and its shadows, and a great deal of discernment is
required in order to sort out the wheat from the chaff. The present Pope has also
accomplished quite a lot in this respect. Motherhood is the privilege and greatness
of woman: hence the unnaturalness of the contraceptive mentality that splits sex
from its procreative power and goes to the extent of maintaining that the purpose
of sex is simply its own pleasurable enjoyment, cutting it off, either mechanically
or chemically, from its openness to the transmission of human life, as Paul VI
showed so profoundly in the famous Humanae Vitae. The use of contraception,
and its logical sequel of abortion, far from liberating woman degrades her, since
it steals from her her true glory, which is precisely to give herself with a love
of self- giving (like God's) and so to be the source of human life and then the
perfect educator of her children. The shadows of feminism are the misunderstandings
and misconceptions regarding motherhood just noted. They have confused the fundamental
and complementary equality of the sexes with physical and quantifiable equality,
as if women can do all things that men can do, which is a ridiculous statement
to say the least, just as it would be ridiculous also to say that men can do all
things that women can do. Any one can see that women are no match for men in sports
for instance, while men are no match for women in care for persons and home management.
And in the Church, likewise, just as only a woman could be the Mother of God Incarnate,
only a man can be a priest in persona Christi, since the Son of God in
his Incarnation assumed male, not female humanity. A male person is a male person,
and a female person is a female person. They are not interchangeable. Human nature
incarnates in two different but complementary ways. Genetically, anatomically,
physiologically, psychologically, and even intellectually, the two genders show
an astonishing differentiation and complementarity. Perhaps the most striking
appears in the irreducible difference between the male brain and the female brain.
In the latter, the corpus callosum which divides the two hemispheres of
the brain into left and right contains many more jump-leads communicating both
halves than does the male brain. As a result, the different functions of the brain
are more continuous and symbiotic in the female, and so more sensitive to the
continuum of reality than the male, who is more inclined to a digital measurement
of reality, and more inclined to activity than to receptivity. This makes women
more intelligent” and men more “rational”. They need each other essentially and
existentially. It stands to reason that we have to accept first the evidence
of this differentiation and complementarity of the sexes, and second that such
differentiation and complementarity are good and explicitly willed by the Author
of humanity. And this calls for a return to the sources of that respect for womanhood
which was taken for granted before individualistic liberalism flooded the industrialized
world. We must, of course, welcome the achievements of the liberal dynamic capitalism
which created so much wealth and eliminated so much poverty. But we ought to take
note also of the negative aspects of individualism, such as the artificial and
erroneous equalization of the sexes which overlooks the fact that an individual
is necessarily either a male person or a female person, and that he or she is
also necessarily the member of a family, not just an isolated individual that
can ignore society. Woman must once again be enabled to occupy her proper place,
for which God has endowed her with unique and exclusive qualities, as mother,
as wife, as sister, as daughter, in short as woman, with a contribution to the
common good which the male cannot provide, as lacking those qualities or possessing
them to a lesser degree: tact and sweetness in human relations, tenderness, compassion,
attention to details, generosity, self-denial, elegance, concern for beauty and
so on and so forth. The Blessed Josemaria Escriva dwelt at length with this point
in his Conversations he was indeed, in his teachings and in his achievements,
an outstanding advocate of womanhood. Marxists say that woman will be “emancipated
from the “drudgery” of home life. But this is a gross misunderstanding of womanhood.
It is a fact that ordinarily a woman finds her fulfillment and happiness precisely
in the life of a home, in being a mother and educator. This is the prime outlet
for her need to love. Thus she fulfills herself, as countless women can testify.
In fact, the Church has canonized not a few of them, such as St. Margaret of Scotland
and St. Elizabeth of Portugal. Does this mean that women should be discouraged
from pursuing careers outside the married life? Of course not. In fact, intellectually
woman is a peer to man, and she can accomplish just as much if not more in intellectual
pursuits such as liberal professions, education, public service and the arts.
A woman can perfectly fulfil herself and lend her rightful contribution to the
common good by pursuing one such career, like medicine or law or business, without
getting married. But in this case, her moral motivation should be not to spare
herself the burdens of married life, but to be more dedicated to the common good,
namely God and society at large. Let us conclude with a word about the role
of man in society. as distinct from that of woman, in order to have a better evaluation
of the feminist movement. Some cynics have even talked about a Man's Lib... One
of the ethical stipulations that the Church makes regarding the question of the
“just salary” is that the salaries for men should be such that their wives are
not forced to seek employment outside the home in order to supplement the husband's
income. In other words., salaries should be tailored to the family, not just to
the individual. This facilitates that the woman can do her own irreplaceable work
of home management and education of the children. Domestic helpers can only be
helpers, but there is no adequate substitute for the manager. And the best qualified
manager for the home is the mother. The reason why the man should be the breadwinner
is not that the woman cannot be that, since intellectually they are peers, but
that the man lacks the suitable qualities for home management: just compare the
looks and the atmosphere of a home to those of a barracks. . . The common good
of society demands, therefore, that there should be such economic development
(and economic development can only be produced by freedom of enterprise and market
with the right of private property) that the stability, security and fruitfulness
of the family can be ensured, by first defending and protecting the unbreakability
of marriage, and then facilitating the rearing of children by their own mothers
in their own homes. This is the way to produce good citizens. How strikingly Tocqueville
emphasized this when talking about American mothers! The first, primary and
most decisive educator of children (future citizens) is not the teacher or mentor
in school but the mother at home, supported and assisted by the father. She has
all the God-given capacity to teach the children how to love, to be a human being,
to be “assets” and not “liabilities” constructors and not parasites, givers rather
than receivers, to work for the common good, to develop a social consciousness
from their tender age, a social consciousness and a social conscience, a true
moral orientation. Only a mother can effectively teach this to the children, supported
and assisted by the father, brothers and sisters and all the household. In the
absence of this, the child is in grave danger of becoming a confirmed egoist,
a violent rebel, a criminal, or an escapist. He needs to be taught how to love,
how to be generous and other-regarding, and the mother is the indispensable teacher
of this. The family is the “domestic church”. The school can only be built on
that foundation. Let me conclude with the following excerpts from Pope John Paul's
Apostolic Letter Mulieris Dignitatem of 15 August 1988: “Thus in the
same context as the creation of man and woman, the biblical account speaks of
God's instituting marriage as an indispensable condition for the transmission
of life to which marriage and conjugal love are by their nature ordered: 'Be fruitful
and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it' (Gen 1:28). (No.6) (Italics in
text) “In our times the question of women's rights has taken on new significance
in the broad context of the rights of the human person. The biblical and evangelical
message sheds light on this cause, which is the object of much attention today,
by safeguarding the truth about the 'unity' of the 'two', that is to say the truth
about that dignity and vocation that result from the specific diversity and personal
originality of man and woman. Consequently, even the rightful opposition of women
to what is expressed in the biblical words 'He shall rule over you' (Gen 3:16)
must not under any condition lead to the 'masculinization' of women. In the name
of liberation from male 'domination' women must not appropriate to themselves
male characteristics contrary to their own feminine 'originality'” (No. 10) (Italics
in text) “The dignity and the vocation of women as well as those of men find
their eternal sources in the heart of God. And in the temporal conditions of human
existence, they are closely connected with the 'unity of the two'. Consequently
each man must look within himself to see whether she who was entrusted to him
as a sister in humanity, as a spouse, has not become in his heart an object of
adultery; to see whether she who, in different ways, is the co-subject of his
existence in the word, has not become for him an 'object'; an object of pleasure,
of exploitation.” (No.14) “Parenthood even though it belongs to both
is realized much more fully in the woman, especially in the prenatal period.
It is the woman, 'who pays' directly for this shared generation, which literally
absorbs the energies of her body and soul. It is therefore necessary that the
man be fully aware that in their shared parenthood he owes a special debt to the
woman. No program of 'equal rights' between women and men is valid unless it takes
this fact fully into account. Motherhood involves a special communion with
the mystery of life, as it develops in the woman's womb. The mother is filled
with wonder at this mystery of life, and 'understands' with unique intuition what
is happening inside her. In the light of the “beginning”, the mother accepts and
loves as a person the child she is carrying in her womb. This unique contact with
the new human being developing within her gives rise to an attitude towards human
beings which profoundly marks the woman's personality. It is commonly thought
that women are more capable than men of paying attention to another
person, and that motherhood develops this predisposition even more. The man
even with all his sharing in parenthood always remains outside'
the process of pregnancy and the baby's birth; in many ways he has to learn
his own 'fatherhood' from the mother. One can say that this is a part of
the normal human dimension of parenthood including the stages that follow the
birth of the baby, especially the initial period. The child's upbringing, taken
as a whole, should include the contribution of both parents: the maternal and
paternal contribution. In any event, the mother's contribution is decisive in
laying the foundation for a new human personality.” (no.18) (Italics in text)
“In our time, the successes of science and technology make it possible to attain
material well-being to a degree hitherto unknown. While this favours some, it
pushes others to the edges of society. In this way, unilateral progress can also
lead to a gradual loss of sensitivity for man, that is, for what is
essentially human. In this sense, our time in particular awaits the manifestation
of that 'genius' which belongs to women, and which can ensure sensitivity for
human beings in every circumstance: because they are human!” (No. 30) (Italics
in text) ACKNOWLEDGEMENT de Torre, Rev.
Joseph M. “From Woman to Feminism.” In Generation and Degeneration: A Survey
of Ideologies, 175-184. Manila: Southeast Asian Science Foundation, Inc.,
1995. Reprinted by permission of the publisher. Copyright 1995 by the Southeast
Asian Science Foundation, Inc. P.O. Box 478, Greenhills Post Office, Metro Manila,
Philippines. ISBN 971-8527-249, $15.50 U.S. THE AUTHOR
Fr. Joseph M. de Torre is Professor of Social and Political Philosophy at the
University of Asia and the Pacific, Manila, Philippines and has written widely
on many issues. Father de Torre is on the Advisory Board for The Catholic Educator's
Resource Center. Copyright © 1995 Southeast Asian Science Foundation, Inc.
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